Today my girlfriends and I are presenting our talk on understanding family relationships to a group of young moms.
Yeah, like we’ve got all the answers to that one!
I have a feeling they think we know what we’re talking about just because we’ve got a couple of decades on most of them. But, *mileage* should count for something, right? So, in our ignorant bliss, we’re presenting four aspects of what makes us who we are, and influences the way we interact with others and our world.
I’m doing birth order, "L" is doing personality types, "T" is doing introversion vs. extroversion, and "J" is doing the five love languages.
Just in case you’re interested, this is how I break down:
Birth Order: Firstborn
Personality Type: Melancholy
Love Language: Quality Time and Words of Affirmation
I think we’re going to be brilliant (at least in our own minds!) Seriously, if you’re reading this between 9:30 – 10:30 AM (PDT), we’d REALLY appreciate your prayers!
Right now, I’m putting the finishing touches on my part, and then it’s time to PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE…(Is there anyone else out there that detests the sound of their own voice?)
However, before I go do that – I had to write a post. I do have my priorities – yes, I do – and my blogging friends are right there at the top of the list.
So, here’s what I’m thinking. I’m all for learning and understanding why we "tick." It's a good thing when we’re armed with a little knowledge. I think it can make us better people, better spouses, better parents. I think it allows us to give ourselves, and others, a little grace – a little room to be the unique blend that all of us are.
But there’s a danger in all of this.
It’s all too easy to smack a quick label on someone, and put them in a little filing cabinet. Relationships aren’t so messy if we can just "slot" them into some mold – if we can hammer their dear little square pegs into that ubiquitous round hole.
And you know what’s even worse than doing it to others??
Doing it to ourselves.
Because when we do it to ourselves, it becomes a two-fold danger zone.
One, we start to make excuses for the way we think, or the things we say or do. "Oh, that’s just the way I am." We rationalize away the need for change. Or we beat ourselves up over our shortcomings. "Oh, I’ll never be... I’m really no good at… I hate myself because I’m…"
Or, the other trap, we brag on our strengths.
We think we’re better than the next person. Instead of seeing some of our strengths as natural inborn tendencies, we start to think we’re "all that" because we’re responsible for them. "Oh, I’m wonderful because I’m (fill in the blank) – deep, or organized, or funny, or mellow."
And self-judgers become other-judgers.
It’s a real mess, isn’t it?
Only if you’re looking at things from a human perspective.
But God sees in a totally different way.
He sees us – the real us – the hidden heart of us.
He sees the *us* He made.
And He doesn’t label us, or file us away. He doesn’t slot us into a mold. He doesn’t try to hammer us into a round hole.
He shapes us – He molds us – from the inside out.
Enhancing the strengths, and mending the weaknesses.
IF we turn our lives over to Him – completely.
So, here’s how we all break down:
Birth Order: Born Again
Personality Type: Spirit-filled
Temperament: Focusing inward on Jesus, and going out to share Him with others
Love Language: The blood of Jesus, shed for all
If I’m picking any label – I’m slapping a big ol’ "CHILD OF GOD" on myself!
How about you?
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